After three years of marriage to the Hubs I was sitting on his parents’ front porch talking with several in laws when the MIL asked the same question she had every time I saw her during those “blissful” early years of marriage, “So why is it you aren’t changing your name?” I choked on whatever soda I […]Read more "Guest Column: I’ve never heard of professional women keeping their name"
Christmas time is gone, and gift giving has subsided for now–so I can’t really tell you why I was perusing the MIL gifts on Pinterest, but I was. Curiosity killed the cat, I suppose. At any rate, as I was scrolling I noticed the majority of the gift ideas were wine related, food baskets, or […]Read more "Curiosity Killed the Cat"
As we geared up for Christmas this year, I invited my MIL out for a little extra bonding. Olive branch, ladies. She came in early and we decided it would be nice to drive into the city and get our nails done. She needed a filling and, well, I just needed to stop chewing on […]Read more "Guest Column: Abandoned"
My mother-in-law is the queen of backhanded insults. She has perfected the art of stealthily inserting jabs into everyday conversation. So much so that I have a hard time deciding if I’m actually hearing or experiencing these cheap shots or if I’m slowly going insane and imagining it all. Instead of wracking my brain to […]Read more "10 Insults, 1 Compliment"
With a new year upon us, it’s only fair to look at ways to improve ourselves and the 365 days that lay ahead. Isn’t it? Or maybe we should just gently suggest ways to improve our relationships with our mother in laws. Here are some canned responses for common MIL quips to help you in […]Read more "A Mother-in-Law New Year"
It’s safe to say my knee and I have a love/hate relationship. I’m very active and an avid soccer player, though since three kids I’ve been playing on an after work league just for fun. Cue injuries. Now that I’m in my 30s, I’m on my third knee surgery and probably not able to get […]Read more "Guest Column: Are you wearing make-up?"
There comes a time–if you’re divorced–that you meet someone wonderful and they sweep you off your feet (after many years of dating) and you finally decide that marriage is an option because you’re both adults with good jobs and you might want to start a family of your own and give that little kiddo from […]Read more "This isn’t your first marriage…"
I’ve been reading up on how to survive my in-laws over the holidays. Amazingly there are a lot of resources out there. I thought I would share a few of my favorite articles and some of my own tips learned from my, and other’s experiences. Tip 1: Pretend You’re Deaf. This doesn’t seem like a […]Read more "5 Ways to Survive Your In-Laws Over the Holidays"
It had been about 4 months after the MIL had moved on from her ex husband and had been living in her own home. She was lonely, house poor, and lawyer poor. Already, she had gotten herself into a significant amount of debt and still owed her divorce attorney quite a hefty sum of money. […]Read more "What box?"
If you’ve ever been through a divorce, it’s devastating. The thought that you’ve invested and committed yourself to a relationship and a person, only to have that ripped away and replaced with nothing–that’s just the surface. With that being said, my MIL was going through a horrid divorce just as my husband and I were […]Read more "We aren’t friends"
My mother-in-law is a very particular woman. After over 35 years of being a stay at home mother and wife, she had perfected the art of ‘keeping house’. While I love a clean house, I’m lucky if I get out the door to work with matching socks and my computer. With the little time my […]Read more "Cleaning Lady"
I’m not sure how everyone else handles their relationship with their mothers, but I don’t talk to my mother twice a day…While I’m still my mother’s baby, she doesn’t feel the need to call me twice a day to tell me what I should be doing or how to act. My husband tries not to, […]Read more "Inappropriate Calling"
How is it that regardless of circumstance or corroborating evidence, your hubby is always lily white? That perpetual halo hovering over his head is never tarnished in his momma’s eyes, and if there is a slight skew it is most assuredly due to you leading him astray. Never mind the time he was doing donuts […]Read more "Not Mommy’s Little Angel…"
I may have mentioned this before, but I’m not a traditional girl. I don’t push back on all traditions, just a few that I find silly and personally hate. One of them being, something that I felt would cause me to lose my identity. If I dropped the name I’ve had my entire life in favor […]Read more "What’s in a Name?"
Marrying my first husband was a lot like a rushed shotgun wedding you see in Hollywood. Gather the family quickly, get some cake, maybe a nice dress, and find a pastor willing-enough to marry you. That was most certainly the case with us. We had about a month to get the affairs in order and […]Read more "Just Family, Please."